10 reasons why people keep going back to their cheating partners

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There are those who go back to their cheating partners, despite being hurt by them before. They have a hard time cutting ties with their significant others, despite the infidelity.

Getting cheated on is the worst feeling in the world. You feel like your entire world is crashing around you. Moving on from a cheating partner could be next to impossible. Your friends would say that ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’, while others would urge you to end things immediately.

Why do people get back with their cheating partners? (Pixabay)
Why do people get back with their cheating partners? (Pixabay)

But there are those who go back to their cheating partners, despite being hurt by them before. They have a hard time cutting ties with their significant others, despite the infidelity. So why do people let their cheating exes back into their lives?

Despite having their hearts broken, people still forgive their cheating partners (Pixabay)
Despite having their hearts broken, people still forgive their cheating partners (Pixabay)

Let’s find out:

1. You could still be in love

You could still be in love (Pexels)
You could still be in love (Pexels)

It may sound like a fairytale reason, but the truth is that you could have let your cheating partner come back to you because you still love them. Even though you have been very hurt by their infidelity, you let them back into your life because of love.

2. You think that they will come back to you

You think that they will come back to you (Pixabay)
You think that they will come back to you (Pixabay)

May people forgive their partners for cheating on them because they feel like they will eventually return to them. You could probably feel like your partner is capable of change and they will come back to you (like they always do). Forgiving them and waiting for their return is ultimately rewarding their behavior.

3. You may be naive

You may be naive (Pexels)
You may be naive (Pexels)

Your partner may tell you that they are heading out to meet their friends or that they are busy with work. But n reality, they’re two-timing you. Your naivety could be a shortcoming. This only encourages infidelity. If you have a nagging feeling in your gut, then go with it.

4. You may be in denial

You may be in denial (Pexels)
You may be in denial (Pexels)

Many people may have confirmed your partner’s cheating ways, but you have a hard time coming to terms with it because you are in denial. You think that your partner is not capable of cheating, or you are just too shocked by the news. Either way, denial never lead to anything good.

5. You believe that forgiving is easier than breaking up

You believe that forgiving is easier than breaking up (Pexels)
You believe that forgiving is easier than breaking up (Pexels)

Sometimes the hurt after a breakup can be twice as bad as the hurt you feel when someone cheats on you. You cling on to the relationship because you feel like forgiving your cheating partner is easier than completely breaking off with them.

6. You can’t let go of the relationship

In some cases, people who are married with children put their family first (Pexels)
In some cases, people who are married with children put their family first (Pexels)

In some cases, people who are married with children put their family first instead of jumping the gun and leaving a cheating partner. It’s a tough bargaining chip to play when there is a family involved, but people try to make it work as much as they can.

7. You hope that they could change

You hope that they could change (Pexels)
You hope that they could change (Pexels)

Sometimes, we hope that the same people who hurt us will be capable of change. You probably are thinking “They’ll remember why they loved me,” and that this will make them come back to you. So despite the repeated cheating, the hope still remains unwaveringly strong.

8. You don’t want to be a quitter

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You don’t want to be a quitter (Pexels)

Maybe you don’t realize it, but you could be sabotaging yourself because of an inflated ego. You don’t want to be seen as a quitter, so you just let the cheating and infidelity continue. You don’t want to be seen as a quitter, so you stick to the toxic relationship as much as you can.

9. You’re afraid of being alone

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You’re afraid of being alone (Pixabay)

It’s human to be afraid of loneliness. You probably would be thinking that the end of this relationship could mean the end of you ever being in any OTHER relationship. Your fear of being alone is stopping you from making the right call and end the relationship.

10. You’ve been through a lot together

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You’ve been through a lot together (Pexels)

Your partner may be your rock to lean on, which is why you find t so easy to forgive their cheating ways. You two have been together through thick and thin, which is why it makes it harder for you to pull away from them. Even though your partner may cheat on you, you brush it aside.

If you feel like you are unable to handle the stress caused by your relationship, then please do not hesitate to reach out for help. There are certified therapists and counselors who are trained to handle situations such as this. 

by Aaliya Bilal